Sometimes you can find yourself in situations where you will be hurt by others. It does not mean you deserved to be treated that way. But, it can be really difficult to come out the other side without scars. I hope knowing that you are not alone in these experiences will give you the strength to recognise that you don’t deserve this treatment and that your feelings are valid. That you have the right to stand up to it or to walk away.
The poem below is about working in a bar as a waitress with a bartender who was unkind.
I never knew that being a server meant being:
A servant to you
A person that was lesser than you
A voice that needed silencing by you
A receptacle for the hatred and unkindness in you
An object to be looked at
A body to be touched
A spirit to be crushed
A heart that would almost be broken by you
Jesus, fuck, I wish I knew.
Abusive work environments do exist. You need to be incredibly brave to report workplace abuse. I urge you to find the strength to do it or to get the fuck out of there. No amount of money is ever worth staying in such a toxic environment. Check out this great post from David Yamada about recovering from workplace abuse.